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Tired of Being a 7 out of 10?

Guys like to harbour this fantasy that women talk mostly about shoes and have pillow fights. But women rate guys too, and as research shows it’s a convoluted scoring system that even Alan Turin would struggle to decipher. First of all women are just as vain as guys, looks are important. Women will constantly talk about how they just want a guy to make them laugh, but give them a choice on who'd they'd rather blow, Lee Evens or Ryan Gosling and guess which Hollywood A-lister has the queue of women...

So let’s just say for arguments sake you're not Ryan Gosling but you are easy on the eye and that starts you off at a 7.

How does a guy get from a 7 to a ten? OK we'll start with a thing called 'value'. How much do you value yourself? When someone calls your name do you snap your head back in eagerness? When you're talking to a girl at the bar and she tells you to stay put whilst she takes a leek, do you hang around? A 7 doesn't look at his phone waiting for it to ring, and a 7 doesn't act all surprised when he hears the cute girl behind the bar fancies him. 

So if you show that you value yourself, your time, this promotes you from a 7 to an 8. If you're hoping that your Audi A8 takes you from an 8 to a 9 then congratulations, you're right, it does. But the bad news is you’re a 9 in the wrong girls’ eyes. She's going to see you as the sort of sugar daddy that will pay for every holiday, every drink at the bar, and so on. What takes you from an 8 to a 9 is never having to 'qualify' yourself. Never even mentioning that your watch costs a king’s ransom, or that one of your good friends plays for a Premiership team.

When a woman hears it through the grapevine that you have a chalet down the coast, it's lip service that can't be bought. So now you're a 9, what else? Well it's everything else! 'Body language'. Chin up, shoulders back, walk into the joint like you own it (but without the arrogance), and everyone there is your guest. Perfect your walk. Make it look like you love walking. 

Lastly it’s not a myth that girls go for bad boys and nice guys don't finish last. But the weak ones do. Women happen to be with guys that are bad, but it's not there poultry manner that makes them attractive, it’s their strength. Their ability to be impulsive and make decisions. Not all nice guys are pussies, but they are so eager to please, and so afraid of being misunderstood. So be 'strong', have 'value', and don't 'qualify' yourself to anyone.

*Hipster couple, Smiling woman images via Shutterstock

Peter Brooker

Peter is a published author on men's style, a huge James Bond fanatic and the host of our very own Menswear Style Podcast. His new book 'From Tailors with Love: An Evolution of Menswear Through the Bond Films' is available now.

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